I was lying in my dorm room and was texting my friend Sidney. He told me he couldn’t make it, so I decided to jump in the shower.
When I got back to my room, I found him lying on my bed. He asked if this was a bad time and made his way to the door.
True love isn’t felt in a heartbeat or in a second glance. And contrary to popular belief, love at first sight isn’t really love at all.
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"Tell you what: I'll define it, and you raise your hands if you agree. When she called her parents to tell them the good news, they were elated.
Obviously, there's a huge distance from here to the far more profound, personal love developed over the years, especially in marriage. Susan learned about this foundation of love after becoming engaged to David.
This is human behavior, because these traits are engrained within us.
But when you experience true love with someone, your primal instincts and behavior change only towards this person. It makes you a better human being towards a special someone.
And just as easily, it can spontaneously degenerate when the magic "just isn't there" anymore. Love is the attachment that results from deeply appreciating another's goodness. After all, most love stories don't feature a couple enraptured with each other's ethics. God created us to see ourselves as good (hence our need to either rationalize or regret our wrongdoings). Nice looks, an engaging personality, intelligence, and talent (all of which count for something) may attract you, but goodness is what moves you to love. Just focus on the good in another person (and everyone has some). I was once at an intimate concert in which the performer, a deeply spiritual person, gazed warmly at his audience and said, "I want you to know, I love you all." I smiled tolerantly and thought, "Sure." Looking back, though, I realize my cynicism was misplaced.
Erich Fromm, in his famous treatise "The Art of Loving," noted the sad consequence of this misconception: "There is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started with such tremendous hopes and expectations, and yet, which fails so regularly, as love." (That was back in 1956 ― chances are he'd be even more pessimistic today.) So what is love ― real, lasting love? What we value most in ourselves, we value most in others.
My wife and I were divorcing, but still sharing a bed.
After a long day's work, I hit the bar with friends to unwind.
[Read: 10 reasons why saying ‘I love you’ too soon sucks] When you first start dating someone or fall for someone at first sight, what you experience isn’t love.