After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.I would like to hear from people what is your experience and input and advice in marrying a widow or widower, and what red flags to look for in getting to know the person. I am in my late 50s and the gentlemen in the preferred age range (in their 60s) may be widowers.Sure, society has its ways to categorize ages and put rules around who should have a relationship with who, but these rules mean nothing when loves come in.
It is not the dissolution of the marriage that is the issue but the mechanism of grief that it triggers.
Grieving just a marriage is far different from the grief that accompanies the profound loss of a person. Pros and Cons While grieving the loss of their marriage, a divorced person might recall the benefits now lost and the good times had but at the heart of divorce lie very good reasons for separation which outweigh the formers.
On the other had, there are some undeniable disadvantages when you are dating older men.
We have to be realistic and look into both sides of the story if we want to be as objective as we can.
i remember by grandmother's second marriage was to a widower, and they were very happy together.
There were pictures of the first wife in their house, and I asked once about that.
When you reach your thirties, if you haven't found your single man with no baggage in your twenties, you have to be more open about a man with children.
A man with children in his thirties, if his children are a priority, is also a good man. I’ve just come out of another ‘Man with baggage’ relationship –Never again will I put myself through this. I am 30 , attractive, professional woman on a positive path and working hard to get a good solid career behind me so I never have to rely on a man.
In your late teens and early twenties: Date a man WITHOUT kids.
In your late twenties: Date a man WITHOUT kids or prior marriages if possible In your thirties and forties: Date a man WITH kids and prior marriages as long as he is secure with himself, his kids are a priority and he is honest with you on where you stand.
You may not have a problem with being tied down at this age.. Update: Well I did end up leaving the man with the kid, and to be honest have not looked back once. It was the best decision for me, i want to have the experience of having children with a man who has not had it before. How about this I am dating a man with one child he knows is his biological child and 2 kids that are not but he claim them as well because his mom said they were his child but the papers say they are not but the mon said they were in there life sense the day they were born so they continue to let the children call him dad. Life is challenging and I've made it through so many tricky situations and come so far that I can't believe that I would ever 'settle' for this type of 2nd best situation!