The second issue—what individuals are most likely to lie about—can be divided into several categories, including physical appearance, education, relationship or job status, and issues related to personality traits and interests.
What are friends for, if not to lie to you by lending unconditional support?
So if the rest of the world can see that someone is toxic, why do we stay?
In an earlier post, I discussed how people involved in online relationships can develop intense bonds due to the unique ability for the anonymity and control provided by online interactions to enable expression of the “true self”: traits that a person possesses, but does not normally feel comfortable expressing to others.
Research has shown that when we chat online, even briefly, these normally hidden traits become more cognitively accessible to us and we actually do succeed in expressing them to others (Bargh et al., 2002).
Developing trust is one of the hardest things to do in any relationship.
Be it with a friend, an office mate, a family member, or your partner, trust can be hard to establish.
Another essential part of trust is the ability to put yourself in your partner’s shoes.
It is easy to get caught up with our own emotions and thoughts at times, but you should always remember that there are two of you in the relationship.
When my boyfriend and I were at this stage, we focused on talking about topics like faith, where we want to be in 5 years, and about our hopes and dreams for our lives.
That’s not to say that we didn’t talk about less serious things like our favorite foods or the type of music we like.
Even a total jerk can be expected to be a nice guy 80% of the time.