Dating or marrying an older man can have many merits, but there are still several potential disadvantages.For instance, an older man is less likely to tolerate changes to his life.
A friend told me I should stick it out a while longer since there are benefits to being married ten years or longer. In some states, such as California, in a marriage of ten years or longer the court retains he right to order that alimony be paid to the lesser-earning spouse for as long as she needs it, if the other spouse has the ability to pay.
If you do not know the rules in your state, you could unintentionally lose your right to alimony.
For instance, he might think that all women are nagging shrews because his ex-wife never gave him a moment’s peace.
Depending on the age gap between you and him, his children might even be grown up.
Instead, the older man probably has an established and well-organized routine that has worked for him for years, and he doesn’t want to alter it.
Because older men can be set in their ways, you should think twice before dating one unless you are willing to do most of the adapting.
A ten-year marriage is also considered to be a long-term marriage by the Social Security Administration.
If you were married for ten years of longer, you will be eligible to collect derivative Social Security benefits based on your ex-spouse’s earnings record when you reach retirement age (if you aren’t married to someone else at the time).
That means there’s a strategic advantage for women to snag an older gent—he’s had more time to accumulate resources and stability than his younger counterparts, which could make him a more viable partner and father.