Note that I used the word “impression” because it’s not about who you really are: it’s about someone stereotyping you before they get to know you, based on little things you might say, or not say, that usually don’t reflect who you are deep down. After interviewing more than 1,000 single men and women for my new book, “Have Him At Hello,” I have 9 tips to help you shine on the phone: 1. Be fun: If there’s a lull in the conversation flow, try to be fun and spark some banter. Relax him/her: Make the person feel relaxed and confident by acting happy that s/he called and giving positive feedback on their conversation skills (even if his/her phone skills aren’t great-the initially shy or awkward ones usually make better partners in the long run than the instantly slick, charismatic ones! For example, tell someone, “I had a rough day at work, but your call cheered me up! Know when the party’s over: End the conversation quickly when you sense the energy level drooping.
There’s nothing more irritating than spotty reception and always saying, “What? Be aware of your tone: Always use a cheerful voice, even if something he says annoys you, or if you’ve had a bad day. ”, remember that is not an inquiry about your health or your mood. I just returned from an exhilarating run in Central Park with my best friend from college.” What does that tell him/her about you? For example, “Hey, did you happen to see David Letterman last night? For example, “Oh, I just realized it’s pm and I didn’t call my grandma yet to wish her happy birthday!
In the early stages of getting-to-know-you, everything you say is used to project what type of person you are. Use that vague question to give an intentional response, to share something about yourself that you deliberately want him/her to know. It says you are fitness oriented (you run), you’re the type of person who has sustainable relationships (you’ve maintained a friend for 20 years since college), and you’re an energetic, positive person (I’m great! ).” Obviously don’t make anything up (i.e., don’t say you went running if you really didn’t! Don’t grill: Getting someone to talk about him/herself is not the same thing as peppering him/her with frequent or mundane questions. Don’t ask more than one question per minute (inject comments and reflections in between questions to minimize the quantity of questions, making it a real conversation, not Q&A session). He did the Top Ten Reasons for things overheard waiting in line to see Avatar…. ” Asking someone to guess something is a great way to flirt and keep things interesting. So sorry about that, I was really enjoying our conversation….
You can just see and feel those sparks flying all over the place!
Learning how to have good conversations with your potential soul mate will not only help you both grow closer, but will also make for a much more enjoyable dating experience.
[Read: 14 signs you’re ruining your first date without even realizing it!
] How to perfect your first date conversation A first date helps you judge the person you’re meeting, and evaluate them as a dating potential over the long term.Your first phone impression is a tricky mating stage that comes after exchanging emails online, but prior to meeting face-to-face.What I’m seeing as a matchmaker in this new dating decade of 2010, is that many first dates never happen because the guy or girl had a negative impression of you via phone.There are a few people who always find it very easy to impress all their dates, all the time.On the other hand, there are a few other people who always seem to fail miserably at making a great first impression no matter how hard they try.The way you behave and treat the person you’re with on a date can play a big part too.